The choices are real, plentiful and often overwhelming. I am confident this book will help you find a high quality significant relationship. Grownups don’t get swept away by personal charm or sexual heat. They respond courteously to all but the most offensive or dangerous attention. LIVING like a grownup means never doing or saying anything that makes you a harder person to trust.The typical book on dating, with strategies to manipulate or force a relationship to "win" a guy, only compounds the problem--and is more likely to help you maintain your spot on the breakup treadmill. But I am even more confident that you will find these insights, mined from the highly personal embarrassments and heartaches of so many wise and witty women, to be Heather Dugan is the author of Date Like a Grownup, finalist in both the USA Book Awards and the Next Generation Indie Book Awards for Non-fiction/Relationship books; Pickup in Aisle Twelve and Stuffing Sandwiches Down My Shirt--a surgeon-recommended guide for patients facing a post-op recovery on crutches. They have houses and cars and bills and investments and all of those things need their attention. They decide to date someone because it makes sense, because dating that person fits into the rest of their life, because it moves them closer to their own goals and values. Grownups don’t pretend to have feelings that aren’t there, and they have the personal courage to say “No,” when it needs to be said. I think this is the one I most needed to hear myself: grownups, know that trust is the foundation of any relationship. And that lesson of personal integrity is where I found the secret charm of Dugan’s work. Its story is about living life with joy and friendship and honor, and choosing the time and people with whom you share that life. I was recently interviewed by the website Dating about how I support women dating after 40. Last night was my Grownup Girls’ Night Out webcast. Today the New York Times published an article about an epic senior love story. Go here for more information about breast cancer awareness. ” Yep, this week Larry and I celebrated the 10th year of our over 40 Love Story. They have had career success, family success, and they’ve already ticked a lot off their bucket list. Her career as an author, columnist and feature writer launched from the pivotal realization that extreme--and even devastating--challenges are, in fact, great fertilizer and excellent writing material. That image is important because it is a picture of the person who is going to be the reader’s friend and confidant for the next 200 pages or so. Still, I thought I’d play the eavesdropper for a while. Maybe it would help me to understand what women my age are looking for? Yeah, she spends all that time in the gym, and is always talking about her abs, but I notice she’s a little baggy around the knees and shoulders too. Most will chuckle reading the handy "Profile Translation" section.
Dedicated to high impact, face-to-face friendship as a means of change, Ms. This is a business for people with a few miles on the tires and a few mistakes in the rear view mirror… DATE LIKE A GROWNUP is a personal book, and for the most part, it seems intended to help smart, beautiful, successful women like Heather to thrive in their return to the dating world. Here are some of the things I learned about dating like a grownup, once I got over myself. No matter how bad your recent dating experience, someone else has done worse, and Dugan provides plenty of examples and an escape plan.She resides in Central Ohio with her children and a wayward chocolate lab, is slightly addicted to the outdoors and would never let her passport expire. Even though we've never actually met, this hurts a little, because Heather Dugan is a fine looking middle-aged woman. According to Dugan, if they are smart, grownup women aren't looking for men like me. The sort of trick you might expect from a middle aged sorority girl who treats first dates like job interviews…. These quick blurbs just might have you laughing out loud, either because you've 'done that' or can't imagine that someone else really 'did that.' Through these personal stories, Dugan connects with her readers and creates a credible bond.I’m recently divorced, emotionally needy, financially troubled, and I travel with more than my share of personal baggage. There were a couple of times that I just had to put the thing down. Oh, sure, my friend Heather may smile warmly at me from the cover of her book, but it turns out that behind my back, when she’s with her girlfriends, she spends a lot of time warning them to avoid me. She transforms the complexities of new tools such as Match.com, Google Search and social media into opportunities, teaching us to identify our mistakes, perhaps laugh about them, and then move on."Date Like A Grownup" is a terrific guide for women about to enter the dating shark tank after an extended hiatus, as well as for those simply stuck in a dating rut.A longtime voiceover and video personality, Heather is a popular speaker and discussion facilitator and frequent media expert on topics related to relationships, dating, building connection, combatting isolation and work/family issues. A grownup woman isn't sitting around waiting for Mr. And here’s a biggie: grownups treat people with respect. Because you see, this isn’t a book about dating at all. Dugan didn’t teach me everything I needed to know about dating grownup women. Heather Dugan's "Date Like A Grownup" deserves Five Stars--it's just too funny for any fewer, and the humor makes it an effective coaching guide."Date Like A Grownup" provides a refreshing peek into the challenges of building midlife relationships.A writer/advice columnist and connection coach, Ms. But she did point me toward becoming a more grownup man. Dugan says, "Loneliness makes fools of us all," but she presents her readers with practical advice, encouragement and a toolkit for moving past the loneliness and foolishness toward a relationship built for the future.